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57. United We Stand (Matthew 18:15-20)

September 6, 2017 by  
Filed under Fr. Bartunek, Meditations, The Better Part

“He proved that neither unity nor peace could be kept unless the brethren treat one another with mutual forbearance, and preserve the bond of concord through patience.” St. Cyprian

Matthew 18:15-20: “If your brother does something wrong, go and have it out with him alone, is between your two selves. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother. If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you: the evidence of two or three witnesses is required to sustain any charge. But if he refuses to listen to these, report it to the community; and if he refuses to listen to the community, treat him like a pagan or a tax collector. I tell you solemnly, whatever you bind on earth shall be considered bound in heaven; whatever you loose on earth shall be considered loosed in heaven. ‘I tell you solemnly once again, if two of you on earth agree to ask anything at all, it will be granted to you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three meet in my name, I shall be there with them.”

Christ the Lord We come once again upon Christ instructing his Twelve as the end of his earthly mission draws near. He is preparing them to govern his Church. Critics accuse St Matthew of misquoting Jesus in this passage, since he references a Church organization that would not have existed until well after Jesus’ ascension into heaven. But if Christ knew of his coming passion and resurrection, would he not have known of his future Church and be able to refer to it? The context (Jesus instructing his Twelve) and the meaning (that every effort should be made to reconcile recalcitrant Christians with God and with the Church) of the passage, in any case, cohere perfectly with St Matthew’s whole series of instructions to the apostles. Likewise, the first generations of Christians never disputed Christ’s intention to build the Church upon the “foundation of the apostles” (Ephesians 2:20). Clearly, Jesus knew that the time of his earthly Lordship was ending, and he expressly transferred his authority to those he had chosen. The Church was the willed invention of Christ the Lord, not the other way around.

GoodShepherdHajdudorog for post on Matthew 18:15-20Christ the Teacher We must do everything we possibly can to bring one another back when we stray. We must hold each other accountable – not by arrogantly judging our brothers and sisters (we can hardly see the speck in their eyes for the plank in our own, remember), but by reaching out to them when they are in trouble. This passage follows Christ’s parable of the good shepherd who leaves his ninety-nine sheep alone in order to seek out the one who has strayed. Christ is insisting here that his ministers have the same selfless and determined attitude.

The leader of the Christian community is traditionally called a pastor, which comes from the Latin word for shepherd. Bishops are pastors of their diocese; priests are pastors of their parishes; all Christians, in a sense, are pastors of those souls entrusted to their spiritual or physical care. With this instruction, Jesus is enjoining each of us (but especially his ordained ministers, those who will carry on the ministry of his Twelve Apostles) to give everyone the attention they need, to go after the wandering sheep, and to do everything possible to bring them back into the safety of his fold.

Christ the Friend Friends like to be together. Christ likes to be with us. When we “gather in his name” (especially as a whole community in the Sunday celebration of the Eucharist, but also in less official ways), he gathers with us. When we offer our prayers as members of the one family of God, he joins his own voice to ours, insuring that they will please the Father and win his favor. The Christian community is unique; it is not based merely on common goals, hobbies, or preferences. Instead, it is a real but mystical unity brought about by Christ’s own presence among us. For this reason, a Catholic community (especially the parish) will always include all types – young and old, fervent and apathetic, pleasant and crotchety, ignorant and learned, rich and poor. As one reluctant member put it, the Catholic Church can be defined as “Here comes everybody!” That’s because Christ is a faithful friend to each of us; he plays no favorites… and neither should we.

Christ in My Life You never envisioned any of your followers going it alone. You chose your first disciples and built them into a community. Now, centuries later, that community still exists; it’s still growing and thriving, in spite of continuous attacks. I am glad to be a member of your Church, Lord. I don’t want to give into the temptation to be a loner. I want to be a Christian, now and forever, securely incorporated into your mystical body…

I have so many things on my to-do list, Lord, that sometimes I forget the most important thing: fidelity to my Christian mission of being another Christ. Your first priority was bringing people back into communion with God, showing them the Father’s love, and teaching them the way to fullness of life. Make me more aware of other’s needs – physical, emotional, and spiritual. Love them, Lord, through me…

At times, I can get a little frustrated with the humanity of your Church. But you never do. Teach me rather to see the Church as you see it. Teach me to forgive, make excuses for, and help all my brothers and sisters, not just the ones I naturally get along with. Help me to care for and love my pastors in concrete ways. Teach me to welcome them, as you always welcome me…


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Art for this post on Matthew 18:15-20: Cover of The Better Part used with permission. The Good Shepherd, unknown painter – probably Mihály Mankovics, late 18th century, Greek Catholic Cathedral of Hajdúdorog, Hungary, CCA-SA 3.0 Unported, Wikimedia Commons.

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About Fr. John Bartunek, LC

Fr. John Bartunek, LC, S.Th.D, received his BA in History from Stanford University in 1990. He comes from an evangelical Christian background and became a member of the Catholic Church in 1991. After college, he worked as a high school history teacher, drama director, and baseball coach. He then spent a year as a professional actor in Chicago before entering the religious Congregation of the Legionaries of Christ in 1993. He was ordained a Catholic priest in 2003 and earned his doctorate in moral theology in 2010. He provided spiritual support on the set of Mel Gibson’s "The Passion of the Christ" while researching the 2005 Catholic best seller, "Inside the Passion"--the only authorized, behind-the-scene explanation of the film. Fr. John has contributed news commentary regarding religious issues on NBC, CNN, Fox, and the BBC. He also served as the English-language press liaison for the Vatican’s 2005 Synod of Bishops on the Eucharist. His most widely known book is called: "The Better Part: A Christ-Centered Resource for Personal Prayer". His most recent books are "Spring Meditations", "Seeking First the Kingdom: 30 Meditations on How to Love God with All Your Heart, Soul, Mind and Strength", and "Answers: Catholic Advice for Your Spiritual Questions". Fr. John currently splits his time between Michigan (where he continues his writing apostolate and serves as a confessor and spiritual director at the Queen of the Family Retreat Center) and Rome, where he teaches theology at Regina Apostolorum. His online, do-it-yourself retreats are available at, and he answers questions about the spiritual life at

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  • Guest

    Fr. John, as we celebrated the Closing of the Year for the Priests here in our Holy Family Minor Basilica, Nairobi, Kenya, yesterday, I hear Christ’s echo in this Article. To go out and bring back home to the sheepfold, His stray sheep with care and compassion. Those were the words of the Apostolic Nuncio in his Homily. His words were so full of compassion for the few Priests who have recently strayed in our country.

    I love your fitting description of our beloved Catholic Church “Here comes everybody”. God bless you

  • Opus129

    How do you deal with someone in the church who constantly points out others failings and sins, and seems to lack in the charity required for someone to do so? I don’t know how to approach this person or even where to start, or even if I should just ignore him.

    • How do you think you should deal with him?

    • Donald+

      I have a parishioner like the one you describe, except the person is a she and no a him. I speak with her privately about her rude and hurtful comments and she often doesn’t realize what she is doing. I told her that is no excuse for rudeness. She gets better for a few weeks and then she’ll pop off again and I talk to her again. Slowly she is getting better at controlling her rude comments. Donald+

  • Alan Robinson

    I have a copy of THE BETTER PART and like it very much, but I have one problem, the print is just a little bit small. I have various other books for Mental Prayer and they seem to be fine. I wonder if anyone else has ever mentioned this ? Maybe it’s just me ! Alan Robinson

    • Dear Alan – yes – you are among a good number who have expressed frustration about this (including me)! The challenge is that the text is so extensive that even a small increase in type creates a much larger book…

      • StrongerInHim

        Perhaps then; it might be good to split the book into two smaller volumes. I realize the cost is the same as printing more pages; but then again – perhaps not. Sometimes printers charge less for printing more. A longer press run doesn’t require having to stop and clean the press; the paper is purchased in volume and they pay less for buying more, reasons such as that.

        • Dear Friend: You seem like you have a lot of wisdom. I wonder if you could help me with a dilemma. Forgive me for speaking in analogous terms but I don’t want to embarrass anyone. Here’s the situation. A manager of a private library gladly allows a seemingly well intended patron to feely come and participate in the collection as his desire is to bless as many as he can with the riches he has been given charge of. Shortly afterwards, the patron begins to interact with the others that have joined in on the wonderful collection of books. But then things become challenging. The patron begins to speak in opposition to the library manager’s perspective. This doesn’t bother the librarian because he recognizes that he has often had an incomplete or even errant perspective regarding some of the things he speaks about. But then, the patron goes further and begins to twist the librarian’s words and the words of other readers and thinkers – to the point of argument and accusations. Still, he patiently endures and assumes things will calm. But, it doesn’t. The prideful patron then begins to question the librarian’s holy and wise earthly master (whom he gladly serves, trusts and reveres). The librarian then attempts to gently and respectfully correct the patron in private. The response is at first friendly but quickly turns vitriolic. It becomes obvious to the librarian that the patron is clearly imbalanced both emotionally and spiritually. He worries about the patron and prays for him but decides it would be best for all involved to ask the patron not to return. He does so graciously. The patron, in response rages at the librarian. Still the librarian ignores the rage, responds with kindness, and simply locks the door. Shortly thereafter the same patron returns in disguise and begins to spread their perspective around again, all the while in his deception, claiming to speak from a holy and good perspective. What should the librarian do? He is a bit worried about the soul of patron…

  • Graceylew

    I love how christ is such an amazing friend to EVERYBODY!  You never have to feel out of place at church because there is not a ‘type’ of person that goes to church.  I have heard from unbelievers that they don’t feel comfortable and would not fit in at a catholic mass, but this piece gave me hope that perhaps someday everyone will fit in and feel the love and friendship that Jesus has to offer every person.  

  • Cynthia

    I love the devotions in this book, but am also challenged by the small print. Do you think you could post Sunday’s reading from The Better Part a few days before Sunday, so I would have time to pray through it before I go to Mass on Sunday? Thanks so much.

    • Dear Friend: I understand. I usually publish the unit for the upcoming Sunday every Wednesday. I made a mistake this week.

  • ana

    The “Here comes everybody Church” that is beautyful. Hope to be that church very soon.

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