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Can You Pray for Me? 12 Points to Consider

Can you pray for me?
12 Points to Consider


pray for meCan you pray for me? These five words, when strung together, form one of the more important questions in the spiritual life. In and through intercessory prayer, God is asking us to enter more deeply into His outgoing love and mercy.

God wants us to think like He thinks, act like He acts, live like He lives, and praying for others is a beautiful way of thinking, acting, and living like Christ. “We pray as we live, because we live as we pray” (Catechism of the Catholic Church [CCC], 2725). So let us live to intercede and pray for our brothers and sisters in Christ!

How might we do this? Below are 12 points to consider:


First, intercede in faith. Faith is primary. Faith is the door that opens us up to God. Whenever we approach God we do so in faith. As Hebrews 11:6 reminds us, “without faith it is impossible to please God, for whoever would approach him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.” We read of such faith in the Roman centurion. After Jesus told the centurion he would go to his home to heal his paralyzed servant, the centurion responded, “Lord, I am not worthy to have you come under my roof; but only say the word, and my servant will be healed…When Jesus heard him, he marveled, and said to those who followed him, ‘Truly, I say to you, not even in Israel have I found such faith’” (Matthew 8:8-10). Praying with faith is praying with the spiritual confidence that God will come through!

Do you pray with such confidence for our brothers and sisters in Christ?

Second, intercede in the Spirit. All good prayer is prayed in the Spirit. We read in Romans 8:26-27 that “the Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with sighs too deep for words. And he who searches the hearts of men knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God” (Romans 8:26-27). When healing the deaf man with a speech impediment, Christ looked up to heaven and with a deep sigh prayed “Ephphatha!” that is, “Be opened” (Mark 7:34). Often, when we push ourselves athletically, we “dig deep” with sighs and groans. God asks us to “dig deep” into the interior life and pray with sighs and groans. Those who ask for our prayers needs our sighs and groans!

Do you intercede with sighs and groans?

Third, intercede in humble love. Humble love is unselfish love and is the foundation of all intercessory prayer (CCC 2559). To love is to will the good of the other and praying for others is a great act of willing the good of the other.

What’s more, all great acts of love include the gift of our time. Humble love sees and seeks out the needs of others because unselfish love is always willing to give the gift of time. Let us give those who have asked for our prayers the gift of our time.

Do you rush through your prayers or pray in a humble love willing to give the gift of your time?

Fourth, intercede in obedient love. From humble love, we will learn the language of obedient love. The virtue of obedience is rooted in our joyful response to what has been requested of us. We see obedient love modeled perfectly in Mary’s response to the Angel Gabriel: “Let it be done to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38). This Greek [passage] is best translated as a joyful desire to do God’s will. In other words, Mary’s response is motivated not by what she has to do, but what she wants to do. Obedient love is never a chore, but something “we get to do.” We should see our intercessory prayer as something ‘we get to do.”

Do you want to pray for those who have asked for prayers?

Fifth, intercede on the spot. As we respond in loving obedience, we should do so on the spot. In other words, our intercessory prayer should not waste time. Our intercessory prayers should be mindful of Saint Paul’s words: “Besides this you know what hour it is, how it is full time now for you to wake from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we first believed” (Romans 13:11).

Do you pray with a sense of urgency?

Moreover, when you pray on the spot, the person you are praying for will know that you are serious about prayer and this can be a source of consolation for the person requesting your prayers.

Are you a consolation for others?

Sixth, intercede from the heart. The Bible has many examples of men and women praying from the heart. I am particularly fond of the exchange between Isaiah and King Hezekiah. In 2 Kings 20:1-3, the prophet Isaiah told King Hezekiah he would die. In response to this message, King Hezekiah turned his face to the wall and weeping bitterly prayed: “Remember now, O Lord, I beseech thee, how I have walked before thee in faithfulness, and a whole heart, and done what is good in thy sight” (2 Kings 20:3). Interestingly, before Isaiah could even leave the middle court, God sent him back to King Hezekiah with a second message, which was a response to the king’s prayer. In this second message, God said, “I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears” (2 Kings 20:5). God answered Hezekiah’s heartfelt, tear-filled prayer by adding 15 years to his life.

In the end, God wants more than just lip service (Isaiah 29:13; Matthew 7:21-23), but a people who seek Him with their whole heart (Psalm 119:2).

Do you pray with an open heart or closed heart?

Seventh, intercede fervently. This step is the natural outgrowth of the previous six. The “fervent prayer of a righteous man is powerful in its effects” (James 5:16), because he sets himself up like an electric current between God and man. The fervent man is filled with God’s love and grace, and consequently is energized in his faith. In many ways, to pray fervently is to add kindling to the already existing faith that God rejoices over.

Do you set yourself up like an electric current between God and man in your intercessory prayer, praying with an enthusiastic fervor?

Eighth, intercede in specifics. Don’t be generic before God! He desires to know the details of our intercessory prayers. This is not so much for His sake (He already knows the details), but for our sake. There is great power when we sound out our prayers of intercession. As a father, I rejoice when my child is detailed in his requests. It shows me that he knows what he wants. God rejoices over the same deliberate prayer.

Is your intercessory prayer detailed?

Here, I would like to offer two practical tips. I encourage all readers to consider writing down a list of the people and their intentions in a notebook (you can also do this in your iPhone). Sometimes I get so many requests that I don’t know if I have prayed for all of them unless I have written them down. Typically, if you have prayed for them on the spot and have internalized their requests, the requests will be remembered, but it does not hurt to write them down, especially if you tend to forget things.

When was the last time you wrote down a prayer request?

Also, our specific intentions should be presented to God the Father during Mass, especially during the consecration of the Eucharist. I cannot think of a greater time for intercessory prayer than when the whole hosts of heaven are mediating on behalf of the body of Christ.

When was the last time you offered up a name to God during the prayer of consecration?

Ninth, intercede with fasting. Fasting is praying with the body and a great expression of our seriousness towards intercessory prayer. To sacrifice that which we are closest to, food and drink (and also those other things that we are attached to), goes a long way in fruitful intercessory prayer. Essentially, fasting is to enter more deeply into Paul’s exhortation to present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, our spiritual worship (Romans 12:1). Fasting is like sweet incense, an odor that is pleasing to God.

Do you offer up fasting to God as a form of intercession?

Tenth, intercede in friendship. Saint Teresa of Avila once said that “prayer is nothing more than being on terms of friends with God.” Prayer is conversation with God, and it is in our friendship with God, that prayer becomes more regular (1 Thessalonians 5:17) and life-giving.

We tell our closest friends everything. Do we go to Jesus with everything on behalf of our friends?

Eleventh, intercede with trust. We should bear in mind that God does not always respond to our prayer with a “yes,” but sometimes with a “no” or “not yet.” Why? Because the most perfect prayer is “Thy will be done.” We might see something as a good, but it might not be God’s willed good in that moment. However God responds, this should not detract us from being intentional and specific in our prayer but rather open us up to the Father’s loving plan of salvation for all people!

Do you pray with a sense of how God works in our lives for the greater glory of God’s loving plan?

Twelfth, intercede in thanksgiving (and praise) to God. At the beginning of prayer, faith opens the door of the heart to God. After a period of prayer, God fills us with hope and love (charity) for ourselves and the one we are praying for. For this, we are eternally grateful and for this we praise God!

When was the last time you thanked God for a prayer He answered?

In closing, I have a request: can you pray for me? Be assured, I will pray for you! Please, send me your requests to (or hit the contact link at

Philippians 1:9-11

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ – to the glory and praise of God.”


Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection,
implored your help or sought your intercession,
was left unaided.

Inspired with this confidence,
I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother;
to you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful.

O Mother of the Word Incarnate,
despise not my petitions,
but in your mercy hear and answer me.



Art for this post on intercessory prayer asking, “Can You Pray for Me?”: St Carlo Borromeo, Orazio Borgianni, between 1610 and 1616, CCA-SA 3.0 Unported; Jesús y el centurión (Jesus and the Centurion), El Veronés, circa 1571, PD-US author's life plus 100 years or less; Christ the King Catholic Church (Ann Arbor, Michigan) – interior Holy Spirit window, Nheyob, 5 August 2013, CCA-SA 3.0 Unported; all Wikimedia Commons. The Annunciation, Auguste Pichon, 1859, Restored Traditions, used with permission. Detail of  The Prophecy of the Recovery of Hezekiah, Jacob de Backer, 16th century, PD-US author's life plus 100 years or less, PD-Worldwide; La Virgen en Oración (The Virgin in Prayer), Rosario Weiss Zorrilla, circa 1840, PD-US author's life plus 100 years or less; Detail of Prière du Chapelet (Rosaire) [Prayer of Rosary Chaplet], MoocFunWikiDex, own work 18 March 2016; Detail from Canonization ceremony of Brazilian Friar Frei Galvão celebrated by Pope Benedict XVI at the Campo de Marte, in Sao Paulo, Brazil, Fabio Pozzebom/ABr, 11 May 2007, CCA; Modified detail of Santa Maria della Passione church in Milan, Italy. Left side nave – 01 – Baptistry Chapel  Il digiuno di San Carlo Borromeo [St. Charles Borromeo Fasting], Daniele Crespi, undated, photographed and copyrighted by Giovanni Dall'Orto, 26 February 2008 own work, use permitted for any purpose provided copyright holder properly attributed; Detail of La Saeta (The Sacred Song), Julio Romero de Torres, 1918, PD-US author term of life plus 80 years; all Wikimedia Commons.

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About Joseph Hollcraft

Over the past thirteen years, Dr. Joseph Hollcraft has taught at the Middle School, High School, and University level. Founder of Seeds of Truth Ministries, Joseph is an Adjunct Professor to the Avila Institute and host to the Seeds of Truth Radio program. Seeds of Truth airs daily to the north state of California and can be found as an iTunes Podcast where it reaches thousands of listeners in over 40 countries. In his first book with Emmaus Road, A Heart for Evangelizing, Dr. Hollcraft reflects into the principles of spiritual and pastoral theology, and its impact upon the new evangelization. Joseph has also been published with the likes of The Catechetical Review and the Homiletic and Pastoral Review. Joseph earned his B.A. and M.A. from Franciscan University of Steubenville, and received his Ph.D. from Graduate Theological Foundation with studies being completed at Oxford University. Most importantly, Joseph is a devoted husband and father. He lives in Chico, California with his beautiful wife Jackie, and their four children: Kolbe, Avila, Isaac, and Siena.

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  • Cathleen C C Forche

    Very , very nice ,I wish all Christians would read this. The social trend of the “instant action and results” brought on by technology has inspired us to forget these things. God Bless

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      Greetings to you Cathleen! In God all things be praised! Indeed, patience fills up what is lacking in our intercessory prayer (James 1:4).

  • DianeVa

    Thank you Prof Hollcraft for these 12 points on praying for others. Although I am not sure how it came about except by God’s grace, I am blessed to be called upon by numerous friends to pray for their intentions and these points will help fuel my ministry as God wishes. My spiritual mentor always prayed right on the spot for our needs and I suppose I learned from this beautiful woman to do the same. Prayer is the most powerful instrument in the world for it is that “electric current” from God. It is above any natural power and when I see the destructive power of a tornado or hurricane I think of the transformative power of prayer. One need only look at history to see proof that God hears and answers our prayers in all things. Our Father God is patient, loving, and merciful and comes running when we seek Him with a contrite heart. God bless you as you continue to share your knowledge and faith with us. I will indeed pray for you and all at Spiritual Direction and the Avila Institute!

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      God speed to you Diane! I am grateful for your spiritual mentor who witnessed to you so beautifully by praying with you on the spot. Ask…seek…knock…and more hearts will praise God!

  • Peter James Mallett

    I agree with Cathleen. Very very nice indeed. Prayer is our most important duty and role in the body of Christ. How can we know Jesus without prayer and meditation. Confidence in prayer is paramount to faith

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      Amen Peter! Blessings to you!

  • Anthony F. Mullen

    Very helpful article Professor Hollcraft:) It was easy to follow and relate to and I especially benefited from the fasting suggestion.

    May God continue to bless you and your family

    Chorbishop Mullen

    • LizEst

      Thank you, Chorbishop Mullen. We invite you to read through our FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions), especially number 4.12. here:

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      Thank you for your kind words Chorbishop Mullen! Let us pray for one another in our call to fast for our brothers and sisters in Christ!
      In God’s grace we can do all things!

      • Anthony F. Mullen

        Thank you Joseph:)

        Tony Mullen

  • Sherry

    Absolutely loved this article. Thank you.

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      God bless you Sherry! In God all things be praised!

  • LizEst

    Terrific post, Dr. Hollcraft … and so timely for this holiday weekend when, in getting together with family and friends, we will no doubt be asked to pray for others. God bless you and your family now and always.

  • Bernadette

    What exactly are the “sighs and groans”? Thank you.

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      The interior longing God has put into our heart. The more we grow in our desire for God, the deeper we ache for God in our life. The deeper we ache for God in our life, the more difficult it is for us to express in words our encounters with God. So in the Spirit, we pray with impassioned sighs and groans from the depth of our heart. Our intercessory prayers need such longing, aching, yearning!

      Interestingly, the Greek word for sigh is “stenadzo,” it best translates as a groan because of pressure being exerted in a forward motion, like that
      of childbirth. While this image is quite provocative, in a manner of speaking, it does communicate the kind of longing and desire that is in play here. Just as the mother expresses herself in audible sound when delivering her child, so does the Holy Spirit “groan” within us to bring about God’s will in our life. As Saint John Paul II reminds us, in prayer, the true protagonist is the Holy Spirit!!!

  • Paul Diemert

    Maybe it was from a Byzantine website that I read this prayer that I like and use often? “”Oh Lord, thy will be done which would have all persons to be saved and come to the knowledge of truth. Save and help thy servant, ————–. Take this desire of mine as an act of love which thou has commanded.”

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      Beautiful prayer!

  • Marianne

    At the end of Dr. Hollcraft’s wonderful and practical article on intercessory prayer, he asks that we pray for him and that we send our prayer request to him by email. So I did, and within a few minutes, I received a very kind, sincere and prayerful message back. My heart rejoiced and the weight of my grief and sorrow diminished. Intercessory prayer is powerful and reminds us that we are NEVER alone in our trials. God is always with us – through our sisters and brothers in Christ. St. Francis de Sales said that God does not expect us to carry each other’s crosses, but to HELP carry them. Thank you Joseph, and may God always bless your family and ministry.

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      God speed to you Marianne!

  • Ellie Krolick

    Thank you for this beautiful post! I am printing it as a reminder for myself as well as to share with others who don’t have internet access, as I have family in rural areas where that is the case. So beautifully written and easy to digest and put into action! I immediately said a prayer for you, Professor Hollcraft, and will continue to offer prayer for your intentions as well as thanks for the gift you have given us in spiritual direction. I do ask for prayer for my husband, who is about to take early retirement in lieu of being laid off 10 years before we were prepared for this to happen; for my job search to make up for the income we will be losing, as well as the health benefits we will no longer have; and for my son, who recently ended a six-year relationship and three-year engagement to a young woman he met right after high school, and was then laid off from his job due to economic reasons. Through God’s grace he went to confession and returned to the church, and I pray that he will truly allow the Holy Spirit to enter his heart and guide him as he searches for a woman to be his spouse and an employment opportunity that is commensurate with his education and experience. May God continue to richly bless you!

    • Joseph Hollcraft

      United in the Immaculate Heart of Mary and the Sacred Heart of Jesus, we pray together for your husband, your employment, your son and his employment, along with any other needs:

      Our Father, who art in heaven…
      Hail Mary, full of grace…

      May God’s grace fill you up with His abundance. Be assured of my cont’d prayers for you!


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