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I Was Born For You

November 8, 2015 by  
Filed under God's Will, Pilgrimage, Prayer, Teresa Tomeo

I Was Born For You

Editor’s Note:  In anticipation of Avila Institute’s and Ave Maria Radio’s upcoming 2016 Easter Week pilgrimage to Spain, with Dan Burke and Teresa Tomeo, Teresa has graciously shared a reflection on St. Teresa of Avila, the saint she was named after, and St. Teresa’s prayer “I Was Born For You”.

When most of us think of famous words written by mystic and Doctor of the Church, St. Teresa of Avila, we think of her beautiful poem and prayer commonly referred to as “St. Teresa’s Bookmark”:

Let nothing disturb you.
Nothing frighten you.
All things are passing.
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things.
Nothing is wanting in him who possesses God.
God alone suffices.


That’s why you might be as surprised as I was to learn that the theme for the celebration marking 500 years since her birth is not based on this particular prayer, which can be commonly found on the back of holy cards bearing her image. Instead it is based on another prayer; one even more powerful, because it shows the depth of her dependence on God and her total trust in Him, come what may. The poem or prayer is entitled “I Was Born For You,” [and is] also known as “In the Hands of God”. You’ll find a link to it at the end of this [post], but here are a few of the moving verses that should stop us in our tracks in terms of those of us who truly desire to do God’s will no matter what the cost.

Give me death, give me life
Health or sickness
Honor or shame
War or swelling peace
Weakness or full strength
Yes to these I say,
What is your order for me to do?

The first time I heard about this prayer was on my recent pilgrimage to Avila. The words “I was born for you. What do you want me to do?” are printed on fliers, banners, posters, and other materials promoting the yearlong Carmelite celebration. During my stay in this stunning walled medieval city, I felt St. Teresa urging me to go deeper. It was as if she was telling me that I had only begun to scratch the surface in my relationship with God and the Church. Little did I know when I arrived home that the going deeper would occur much sooner than later.

Intrigued by the words I saw repeatedly in Spain I searched the Internet for the entire prayer, but after printing it out I found myself not being able to finish or say the words in their entirety. It was too much. “I’ll work up to that,” I thought. “In the meantime, there is a lot of work to do.” So off I went, diving right back into my busy schedule of radio shows, writing, and speaking; pushing aside the urge to “go deeper,” as St. Teresa kept suggesting. And then suddenly the only thing in front of me was silence. A few sniffles that began after I arrived home from Europe turned into a major upper respiratory infection which led to the most debilitating cases of laryngitis in my 34 year broadcasting career. I was yanked off the air by my ENT* doctor who warned of possible permanent damage to my vocal chords if I did not undergo complete voice rest; no radio show, no public speaking, no phone calls, and for the most part no talking at all. Yes, complete silence was the order of the days and weeks ahead.

At first I wasn’t exactly a stellar patient. After all, there were major stories breaking in Baltimore and at the Supreme Court and I couldn’t weigh in as I normally do. Speaking engagements, at least four of them, had to be canceled; only the second time in my teresa tomeonearly 20 years as a speaker where cancellation was a necessity due to health reasons. I was grumpy and frustrated until I started to look at the glass as half full instead of half empty. Often times when I come back from pilgrimage the same thing happens. I make promises to myself to do more reading and reflecting about what I’ve seen and experienced. These are promises that I normally don’t keep. But not this time. After a few days of a tug of war with God I decided to go a little deeper and embrace the suffering and the sounds of silence.

I allowed my body to rest and rose two hours later than normal. Every morning I grabbed my Magnificat, and several other books including “Divine Intimacy” and “30 Days with Teresa of Avila” and dove in. I began to crave, instead of loath, the silence. Each Gospel reading, each book passage seemed to speak directly to me about the need to rest and to be still. With the images of Avila fresh in my mind I revisited all of the beautiful Avila sights, drawing closer to the saint whom I have loved since childhood. The saint I was named after. I learned more about her and about myself. And finally I was able to read the entire poem and say “whatever Lord.”

Don’t get me wrong. I am hardly saint material. Far from it. But occasionally even a blind spiritual squirrel such as yours truly finds an acorn now and then. I am on the mend, praise God. And it was, and is, scary for a while wondering what might happen. As of this blog entry** I am still off the air. But the silence also enabled me to think back on how through all of the tough times over the years, whether brought on just by the ups and downs of life or my own stupid mistakes, God has turned lemons into not just lemonade but Limoncello! All things He does turn to good as we read in Romans 8:28. We just have to remember to be still and to trust no matter what.

Silent or speaking
Fruit bearing or barren
My wounds shown by the Law
Rejoicing in the tender Gospel
Sorrowing or exulting
You alone live in me.
What is your order for me to do?

St. Teresa of Avila pray for us!


In the Hands of God” by St. Teresa of Avila can be found in The Collected Works of St. Teresa of Avila, Volume 3, by Kieran Kavanaugh, OCD and Otillo Rodriguez, OCD; on pages 377-379. The entire poem/prayer may be found online at

* ENT – Ear, Nose and Throat
** Original blog entry posted on May 13, 2015.


This post originally appeared on Teresa Tomeo’s blog.  Used with permission.

Art: Teresa Tomeo St. Teresa of Avila Pin, and Teresa’s picture, used with permission.

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Teresa Tomeo is an author, syndicated Catholic talk show host, and motivational speaker with more than 30 years of experience in TV, radio and newspaper and spent 19 of those years working in front of a camera as a reporter/anchor in the Detroit market. In the year 2000, Teresa left the secular media to start her own speaking and communications company, Teresa Tomeo Communications, LLC. Her weekday morning radio program, Catholic Connection, is produced by Ave Maria Radio in Ann Arbor, Michigan and now heard on over 200 Catholic stations nationwide through the EWTN Global Catholic Radio Network and is also carried on Sirius Satellite Radio. Teresa is a columnist and special correspondent for the national Catholic newspaper Our Sunday Visitor and appears frequently on the EWTN Global Catholic Television Network. Teresa co-hosts the EWTN television series, The Catholic View for Women, and is the field reporter for their annual March for Life coverage in D.C. Teresa has also been featured on The O’Reilly Factor, Fox News, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, and the Dr. Laura Show, discussing issues of faith, media awareness, and Catholic Church teaching, especially as it relates to the culture. Teresa has been honored to be named an official Vatican Conference Speaker and Conference Delegate. In 2008, she was one of a select group of international delegates invited to the Vatican Women’s Congress in Rome, marking the 20th Anniversary of Blessed Pope John Paul II's letter, On the Dignity and Vocation of Women ("Mulieris Dignitatem".) In September, 2013, Teresa spoke at the Vatican conference entitled, "The Rights of the Family and the Challenges of the Contemporary World" on the topic, “The Way Family is Perceived in Society.” The conference is presented by the Pontifical Council for the Family. As a speaker, Teresa travels throughout North America, addressing media awareness and activism, as well as sharing her reversion to the Catholic Church. She also leads various retreats and pilgrimages each year to destinations around the world, including Italy and the Holy Land. Teresa has authored several books. Extreme Makeover: Women Transformed by Christ, Not Conformed to the Culture from Ignatius Press and has been named “required reading” by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Noise: How Our Media Saturated Culture Dominates Lives and Dismantles Families, published by Ascension Press, is in its third printing. Plus Wrapped Up: God’s Ten Gifts for Women, from Servant Press,God's Bucket List: Heaven's Surefire Way to Happiness in This Life and Beyond, about finding God's will for your life, by Random House/Image Books, and again from Servant Press, Walk Softly and Carry a Great Bag: On-the-Go Devotions which was released February 2015. Teresa and her husband, Deacon Dominick Pastore, will have a new book, to be published by Ave Maria Press, about strengthening marriages; Intimate Graces: How Practicing the Works of Mercy Brings Out the Best in Marriage, coming out in October 2015. Passionate about sharing her faith and educating others on the truth, Teresa is also a Professor for St. Benedict Press’ Catholic Courses, teaching on subjects such as Modern Media and Reclaiming Feminism. In addition to social media listed below, she is also on YouTube.

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  • 7cathy17

    Hi Teresa ,good sharing!A few years back I remember lamenting to a priest in the confessional” I had no issues with having kidney cancer,Gods will be Done,but here I am with a bum knee ,out on disability and I am going nuts!The priest was
    Laughing so hard that he was rocking in his seat and said.”God takes us out when he wants us totally to himself.Enjoy the moment?

  • LizEst

    So glad to learn you are going to order the Divine Intimacy book. It will full of wisdom from the saints and there is much spiritual growth possible from it.

    In heaven we neither marry nor are given in marriage. You might want to take a look at Matthew 22:20. As well, the Avila Institute has a course on the Evangelical Counsels and the Beatitudes which covers this more extensively.

    …finally, from the administrative side: Kindly please look over our FAQ–Frequently Asked Questions–(all the items in the major paragraph four) here (and, by the way, this link is found at the top of every page on our site, if you need to refer to it in the future): You will see that we ask that comments be kept under 300 words. As well, we ask our commenters not to cut and paste something into the combox because it brings hidden code with it. Thank you…and Happy Lord’s Day, Catherine! God bless you!

    • Catherine Nagle

      Thank you, LizEst, for directing me to Matthew 22.20, and the Avila Institute course. I surely could use them! I’m sorry I wasn’t aware of comments kept under 300 words, and not to cut and paste. I will do my very best to abide by the them in the future. Please advise me if I mistakenly misuse them again. I enjoy Spiritual Direction as my most ardent inspiration every day, and wouldn’t want to lose this privilege. Happy Lord’s Day, Liz!

      • LizEst

        Thank you, Catherine…and you’re welcome! I’m reminded of another quote from Scripture: “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you” (James 4:8). So, continue to draw close to the Lord. You are on the way!

  • Cathy

    Catherine ,there have been many moments over the years that I have truly desired
    What the priest possesses in the mass.That oneness with Christ.,I realize that
    We are priest prophet and King by our Baptism,but there are those moments I want

    • LizEst

      I recommend the LIturgy of the Hours (LOTH) to you! Paragraph 108 in the General Instructions (which are binding law) reads: “The person who prays the psalms in the Liturgy of the Hours prays not so much in his own person as in the name of the Church, and, in fact, in the person of Christ himself.” This means that, when a person prays the LOTH, he or she is “in persona Christi”…just as the priest is “in persona Christi” at Mass. Happy Lord’s Day and God bless you, Cathy!

      • Cathy

        Thanks Liz,I notice that I did not include that the desire to have what the priest has in the mass,has taken place within the context of the mass ,not something I spend time thinking about,just something that takes place within
        From time to time. Catherine’s post touched me and reminded me of my own desires at times.I have come to understand that it is God who draws,and when drawing one to himself sometimes you receive a little insight,Have a Good Night

  • sequax

    Theresa– thank you for sharing! I used to live in Ypsilanti, so I remember you from your secular media days. It is so nice to hear a familiar voice in Catholic media! Listening to God, really listening– is hard, especially when one is used to doing all the talking! As someone in communications, your article strikes me to the core. It reminds me that to give God everything is not a one time deal. Over and over you approach the altar, finding all the hidden resistance and pocket desires that were left off the table. And then you realize all of it was His all along, and He was merely a gracious host and let you believe otherwise.

  • DianeVa

    Thank you Teresa for a beautiful sharing! I too am hardly saint material but I do desire to become one! “What do you want me to do for you?” Oh how I wish God would be more clear as He has me desiring to go deeper and deeper and deeper! Everything you said goes “ditto” for me and has only deepened my desire to go on the pilgrimage with you all. But it will have to be by the Lord’s hand that this happens so keep praying for God’s will to be done. I love St Teresa, love Divine Intimacy, love Spiritual Direction and the Avila Institute, love you Teresa even though I have not met you (one day soon?) and love Dan who I met last year on Oct 15th on St Teresa’s birthday. Romans 8:28 has been my go to verse since my reversion back to the faith yet I still struggle with totally letting go and letting God!

  • Ellen Marie Dumer

    Love this prayer Teresa! She has been my mentor saint for decades! This little prayer is pasted to my computer screen…God bless you.

  • CLudwick

    Thank you so much for this post, Teresa. I recall your ordeal back in May and missed you on EWTN radio. It is such a blessing to have you back.
    From one “blind spiritual squirrel” to another I too hesitate to go deeper. I sputter, making false starts, all the time. I have realized that I do want it my way, even though I THOUGHT it was God’s!! I started the “33 Days to Morning Glory” consecration November 5th and have had to face my fears head on! It is like walking through waist-high water – slow and sluggish. There is SO much push back!! But, I feel like I am trying to answer that question: “What is your order for me to do?”
    Please pray for me as I “slosh” forward. Perhaps once I have moved through it all I can embrace silence (when I can find it) and then tackle St Teresa. I have not been able to embrace, let alone read, her particular spirituality. God bless you all.

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