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Keeping Faith Alive During Life’s Dark Nights (Part III of IV)

Keeping Faith Alive During Life’s Dark Nights (Part III of IV)

Editor’s Note:  In Part I, we looked at how faith is a response to revelation, how it penetrates the veil of the ordinary, and how it is essential to our relationship with God. In Part II, we considered the general patterns of growth which we experience. Today, we will begin to explore how to keep faith alive during our lives’ dark nights.  

How to Keep Faith Alive During the Dark Nights of Our Lives


Take Care of Your Soul
One of the great themes in the works of St. Teresa of Avila is the beauty and the grandeur of the human soul in the state of grace. Sometimes faith becomes weak not so much because of the big burdens but because we allow the little frets and cares and burdens to accumulate. If anything agitates us, we should go ahead and deal with it. Get it righted with the Lord before speaking to or meeting anyone. Whatever it is, invite Him into it. Regret nothing, not even the sins and failures.

We are swimming in the graces of the present moment. We should breathe in the rich blessings of each new day and forget all that lies behind. We are made so that we can carry the weight of 24 hours, no more. The Lord has promised to help us with the burdens of today only. Small wonder so many in our world are heartsick and weary.

An honest cry for help cannot be ignored by the living God. “Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief.” Scripture, especially the psalms, teaches us how to cry out to God. This cry from the heart doesn’t have to be refined. It may only be a groan in the depths of the heart, but He will understand. He promised that His Word is a shield in time of battle. Shields don’t help unless we use them. We should pray for – ask for – faith. That is how we grow in faith – by asking for it.

Faith must be exercised and strengthened. If the eye is always covered with a patch and not used, it will grow weaker and weaker. We cannot give faith to ourselves. Ask for it. He will not refuse. Frequent the sacraments. There is no healing, and there is no restoration of what is lost outside of Jesus Christ. Strength and healing are found in Holy Communion and Confession. Ask for the grace of repentance. Say, “Lord, I am rebelling. Forgive me.”

Grow in Your Knowledge of the Faith
You cannot entrust yourself to someone whom you do not know. Get to know God better. This can be done through prayer, Bible Study groups, good spiritual reading, retreats and conferences as well as courses including distance education courses.

Understand That Temptations Will Come
Temptations do not mean you have done something wrong. When temptations against the faith come, treat them just as that: temptations.

If the temptations regard either chastity or faith temptations — take flight. Make an act of faith and then later, when you are on firmer ground, go spend some time in study.

Choose Your Friends Well
“Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.” Read the lives of saints. Find a faith-based group that will support and help you. At the same time, stay away from anyone or anything that will be an obstacle to your relationship with God. As it says in the Act of Contrition, “I firmly resolve, with the help of Thy grace, to sin no more and avoid the near occasions of sin.”

Remember That We Are Body-Soul People
We need to create an environment that is supportive of our soul. As far as sight is concerned, we need to have helpful visuals – statues, pictures, maxims, books, DVDs. In the auditory sphere, we should have on hand good, wholesome religious talks from conferences and we must always be vigilant of the music to which we listen.

Remain Steady
Sometimes we do not remain steady during times of trial and we begin to doubt our faith because we do not see the long vision. We need to learn how to develop a positive attitude as well as a trusting attitude in the everyday events of our lives. Remember, delay is not denial. Remember also, that some denials are expressions of love.


Editor’s Note:  In Part IV, we will conclude our look at how to keep faith alive during the dark nights.

Copyright © 2013 | Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart of Los Angeles, used with permission.

Art: Praying Hands study for an Apostle figure of the “Heller” altar (Betende Hände), Albrecht Dürer, ca 1508, PD-US, Wikimedia Commons.

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  • Diana Marie Winkler

    A wonderful “post”. It confirms what I have been doing the last few years, but there are times I have questioned myself when I separate myself from certain people, people who choose to stay in a negative mind frame, who do not want to change their lot in life by surrendering to the Lord.I never push any of what I am doing on them, they just know this is a lifestyle I have chosen. I, at times, go through a feeling of, am I being judgmental or uncaring by not wanting to be a part of their choices? What I know is that I have chosen to keep my eyes fixed on the Lord, which at times require sacrifices on my part, but He has proven over and over again that His is the only Way to a life of love,joy and happiness, even with the bumps in the road.

    • Barb

      Diana you hit the nail on the head “thanks for putting my exact thoughts into words”

      • Diana Marie Winkler

        It’s always nice to know there are others who feel the same way. Thanks. The choices to separate can be painful, but then I have to remind myself in the end it is God I will stand before and I so want to hear, ” well done, good and faithful servant.” So, when at times the sadness creeps in I think of His Arms opened to embrace me.

    • Patricia

      It is good to keep our eyes fixed on the Lord. We are supposed to avoid near occasions of sin, if we want to grow in virtue. There will be comments made and a price to pay, but a lifestyle choice is our exercise of free will and we have to do what we must to get to our home in Heaven. As the saying goes, “This is not a dress rehearsal.”

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