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The Proof of Love

Presence of GodO Jesus Crucified, make me understand that the Cross is the greatest proof of love.


After the Incarnation, the Cross of Jesus is the greatest proof of His love for man. Similarly, mortification, which is suffering eagerly accepted for the love of God, is one of the greatest proofs of love that we can give Him. It means freely giving up a satisfaction or a pleasure in order to impose on ourselves, for love of God, something which is contrary to our own natural inclinations; we thus prove that we prefer to satisfy God rather than ourselves. Every act of voluntary mortification, whether physical or moral, says to God, “Lord, I love You more than myself!” And since a soul in love has an ardent desire to give proof of its love, it is very vigilant not to miss a single opportunity for renunciation.

It was in this sense that St. Teresa Margaret of the Heart of Jesus resolved “not to let a single occasion for suffering escape, as far as she was able–and always in silence between God and herself.” In fact, she made every effort “to find at each moment some occasion for suffering or bodily pain, so as never to satisfy the slightest appetite or desire, and she sought ways to make even what was necessary, painful and wearying to her body” (Spirituality of St. Teresa Margaret of the Heart of Jesus). Her ardent love for God found an outlet in this generous, untiring exercise of mortification.

Using a different expression, St. Thérèse of the Child Jesus called this practice “scattering flowers,” that is, profiting by every least opportunity to suffer in order to give God a proof of her love. Knowing that the value of mortification depends upon the generosity of the dispositions with which it is done, the Saint said, “I shall always sing, even should my flowers be gathered from the midst of thorns” (Story of a Soul, 13).


“O my Beloved, how shall I show my love, since love proves itself by deeds? I have no other means of proving my love than to strew flowers, and these flowers will be each word and look, each little daily sacrifice. I wish to make profit out of the smallest actions and to do them all for Love. For Love’s sake I wish to suffer and to rejoice: so shall I strew my flowers. Not one that I see but, singing all the while, I will scatter its petals before You. Should my roses be gathered from amid thorns, I will sing notwithstanding; and the longer and sharper the thorns, the sweeter will grow my song” (St. Thérèse of the Child Jesus, Story of a Soul, 13).

“O Lord, dispose of me according to Your will, for I am content with everything if only I am following You on the road to Calvary. The more thorns there are on this road and the heavier the Cross is, the more consoled shall I be, for I desire to love You with an effective love, with a patient love, with a love which is dead to self and entirely surrendered to You. O Lord, You on the Cross for me and I on the Cross for You! Oh! if I could but once understand how sweet and precious it is to suffer: to suffer in silence for You, O Jesus! O dear suffering! O good Jesus!” (St. Teresa Margaret of the Heart of Jesus, Spirituality of St. Teresa Margaret of the Heart of Jesus). Yes, suffering is dear to me because it permits me to give God proofs of my love; because in the darkness of faith, in which I must live here below, it gives me the assurance of loving not only in words, but with a strong, effective love. O Jesus, now I understand why St. Teresa of Avila asked for only one thing: “to die or to suffer,” professing to have no other reason for living except to suffer for love of You (Life, 40).

O Lord, may I too have such strong, true, and ardent love! Grant it to me, You who can give me all things, and who can, in one instant, transform this dry, cold heart into a furnace of charity.

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Art: The Crucified Christ, Peter Paul Rubens, between 1610 and 1611, PD-US, Wikimedia Commons; Father Gabriel of St. Mary Magdalen, mirror from open source material.

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About Dan Burke

Dan is the President of the Avila Foundation, the parent organization of, the Avila Institute for Spiritual Formation, Divine Intimacy Radio and Divine Intimacy Radio - Resources Edition, Into the Deep Parish Programs, the Apostoli Viae (Apostles of the Way) Community, and the FireLight Student Leadership Formation Program, author of the award-winning book, Navigating the Interior Life - Spiritual Direction and the Journey to God, Finding God Through Meditation-St. Peter of Alcantara, 30 Days with Teresa of Avila, Into the Deep, Living the Mystery of Merciful Love: 30 Days with Thérèse of Lisieux, and his newest book The Contemplative Rosary with St. John Paul II and St. Teresa of Avila. Beyond his "contagious" love for Jesus and His Church, he is a grateful husband and father of four, the Executive Director of and writer for EWTN's National Catholic Register, a regular co-host on Register Radio, a writer and speaker who provides online spiritual formation and travels to share his conversion story and the great riches that the Church provides us through authentic Catholic spirituality. Dan has been featured on EWTN's Journey Home program and numerous radio programs.

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  • Camila

    What a gift! This is one of the most stunning posts in RCSD!
    Thank you.

  • Jeanette

    I had never heard of St. Teresa Margaret of the Heart of Jesus before. I found out that Father Gabriel of St. Mary Magdalene also wrote a book about this little known Saint. I thought I would share this website dedicated to her honour that I discovered:

    • LizEst

      Thank you so much for sharing that Jeanette. God bless you!

    • Camila

      Thanks Jeanette.

  • gswf

    Beautiful! Thank you!

  • Estefania

    I like this post very much and I see the tremendous value and beauty in mortification and dying to self. However, and forgive me for my ignorance, does this mean we cannot or should not ever relax? St Margaret tried to find a means to suffer at every moment, I guess there is always a reason to suffer but I’m just thinking of certain instances where perhaps it is just fine to feel joy. I know there is joy in suffering also, is this something we should all strive for? Just sharing my thoughts and anyone can give me their opinion if they wish to. Blessings to all.

    • Dear Estefania – no, it doesn’t mean we should never relax. In fact, part of religious life is celebrating on feast days. So, this example of St. Margaret is just one that helps us stretch a bit in our understanding of how to pursue mortification. As well, it is good and normal feel joy in the midst of a rigorous life of self-denial. Though it may be difficult to understand or believe, as you have said, it is possible to pursue mortification with and in joy.

      • Estefania

        That helps a lot, thank you Dan! I think I’m starting to understand this more. Praise be to God!

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