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Is God talking to me or am I talking to myself? Video

January 7, 2013 by  
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Is God Talking to Me?

Fr. John and Dan talk about how we can discern if we are actually hearing from God or just listening to our own thoughts.

Father John Bartunek and Dan Burke discuss how we understand if we are really engaging with God, or if it is just our own imagination … or, perhaps, something worse? God is always drawing close to us.  Any time we raise our hearts and mind to prayer, He is listening and responds, even if we do not sense it or understand His response.  Father John lists and elaborated on the three ways God usually speaks to us in our time of prayer: consolation, felt presence, or insight; through the Holy Spirit's gifts; through very specific good inspirations. Dan emphasizes how God is the author of good, and how important it is to respond to God, how we train ourselves for more.

“Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.”  James 4:8

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About Dan Burke

Dan is the President of the Avila Foundation, the parent organization of, the Avila Institute for Spiritual Formation, Divine Intimacy Radio and Divine Intimacy Radio - Resources Edition, Into the Deep Parish Programs, the Apostoli Viae (Apostles of the Way) Community, and the FireLight Student Leadership Formation Program, author of the award-winning book, Navigating the Interior Life - Spiritual Direction and the Journey to God, Finding God Through Meditation-St. Peter of Alcantara, 30 Days with Teresa of Avila, Into the Deep, Living the Mystery of Merciful Love: 30 Days with Thérèse of Lisieux, and his newest book The Contemplative Rosary with St. John Paul II and St. Teresa of Avila. Beyond his "contagious" love for Jesus and His Church, he is a grateful husband and father of four, the Executive Director of and writer for EWTN's National Catholic Register, a regular co-host on Register Radio, a writer and speaker who provides online spiritual formation and travels to share his conversion story and the great riches that the Church provides us through authentic Catholic spirituality. Dan has been featured on EWTN's Journey Home program and numerous radio programs.

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  • judeen

    the vidio will not come on this page or when I click on vidio it will not open up…

    • Fixed

      • judeen

        thanks… God bless you.. and your work

  • judeen

     it is hard to ttrust your self.. and God understands this… if you want to know if it is from God ask for a sign…. a persons name come to you over and over.. give them a call.. ask hows things going.. they will tell you – oh I am so down . or I needed your call.. so much! or in prayer , ask for scripture…. to go with it… open your bible.. and it will connect with what was said to you…. testing all things is scripture.. and God will let you know… so you can become solid in listening… dont doubt. more you listen the more God will guide you .. He will also let you know ,how you are comfortable in listening…  our faith is union with God… all the sacrememts , mass adortions , prayers , are so we can reach union with Him…. the bible explains the road blocks. . doubt, sin, unforgiveness, pride, arogance, self serving,  God will not answer, this is scripture when in sinful state that is unrepentant…. but it takes alot for God to turn His face away from people

  • LizEst

    Great little video Dan and Father John. I’ve sent the link on to many. God bless you!

  • carl641


  • If you are in a state of mortal sin and you think that you feel God’s presence or inspiration should you assume that it’s in your head?

    • If you are inspired to holiness, close to the Church, the sacraments – to Christ Himself in all of these means, then it is likely to be the Holy Spirit. Otherwise, you might reflect on St. Ignatius first rule of discernment: in persons who are going from mortal sin to mortal sin, the enemy is ordinarily accustomed to propose apparent pleasures to them, leading them to imagine sensual delights and pleasures in order to hold them more and make them grow in their vices and sins. In these persons the good spirit uses a contrary method, stinging and biting their consciences through their rational power of moral judgment.

      • Pam H

        Personal experience: If you are in a state of mortal sin, and hear a voice or feel a presence or inspiration which you think is God encouraging you to return to virtue and the Church, absolutely believe it is God. 🙂

    • $40709275

      I would say, not necessarily. The Holy Spirit convicts of sin, and God guides. Jesus has such a profound love for sinners. He states in scripture that He came to save sinners, not the righteous. He told St. Faustina that “the greater the sinner, the greater their right to my (His) mercy.” I think the premise depends on what you are hearing when in mortal sin – and we’ve all been there. If it doesn’t line up with scripture, the teachings of the Church, and the full deposit of the Truth of what God has revealed about Himself, then sure – time to look at the source – perhaps the World, the Flesh, or demonic influence, or our own rationalizations. But just because we sin doesn’t mean God isn’t coming to our rescue. He leaves the 99 for us. The key is to learn from it and try not to repeat it again. I heard a preacher say once that we aren’t sinners because we sin. We sin because we are sinners. I never forgot that. Original sin did permanent damage distorting our thoughts and our ways. I believe we shed more and more of those profoundly depraved distortions as we move along our journey with God, and cooperate in trustful surrender, to His sanctification of us, and our conversion of heart to Him.

  • judeen

     2 samuel talks about God talking to people.. and also people saying they heard from God and it important it is not to just say it was God… . and how they righted themselves with God… listening… being right with God and also if they were in sin God still talked to them if they were close to God , they repented and did penence… in old testement God was really strict… and harsh… thank God we have confession… you will hear God tell you to go to confession ,,, if you are in sin. or need to renew your self with God… God tells us to seek and we will find, knock and the door will be open to you…..

  • Thanks and God Bless you and your work.

  • Pat Cooley

    Here is a reflection that is powerful for me rewarding hearing God and my role in the process.

    “Consider the surface of a lake, above which the sun is shining. If the surface of the lake is peaceful and tranquil, the sun will be reflected in this lake; and the more peaceful the lake, the more perfectly will it be reflected. If, on the contrary, the surface of the lake is agitated, undulating, then the image of the sun cannot be reflected in it.

    It is a little bit like this with regard to our soul in relationship to God. The more our soul is peaceful and tranquil, the more God is reflected in it, the more His image expresses itself in us, the more His grace acts through us. On the other hand, if our soul is agitated and troubled, the grace of God is able to act only with much greater difficulty. All the good that we can do is a reflection of the Essential Good, which is God. The more our soul is peaceful, balanced and surrendered, the more this Good communicates itself to us and to others through us.”

    Philippe, Jacques (2002-01-18). Searching for and Maintaining Peace

    • LizEst

      Beautiful and profound! Thanks Pat!

  • He had me until he mentioned horrible broccoli. 😉

    • LizEst

      ; o ))   I like broccoli. Broccoli is a cruciferous vegetable.

      I was going to make light of this. But, then I looked up cruciferous which, of course, means bearing a cross. Cruciferous vegetables are members of the mustard family.

      You know, Christ said that “The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed that a person took and sowed in a field. It is the smallest of all seeds, yet when full-grown it is the largest of plants. It becomes a large bush, and ‘the birds of the sky come and dwell in its branches.’ ” (Matthew 13:31-32). So, too, does the cross become the largest of plants where all come to dwell in its branches where Christ has given Himself for us. “See how the cross of Christ is revealed as the tree of life.” (Antiphon 1 for the 1st and 5th Sundays of Lent, Office of Readings, Liturgy of the Hours).

      • Mustard leaves are especially cruciferous…especially when you have braces… :))

        • LizEst

           : + )))

      • Swell stuff

        @Liz, Delightful!

  • ofservice

    I ve had the experience twice. Once after the passing of John Paul II The Great where in his voice I heard : “The truth of God is Love, and The truth of Love is God. The second after much prayer as to why I was being presented with divergent challenges in mass a thought came to me that the challenges were related a was presented with A in order to accomplish B. I was unable to make sense of it until then

  • I have experienced in prayer – particularly in Adoration – the gift of a Divine Dialogue, if you will.  I know that it is God Who is speaking to me, reassuring me, comforting me, sometimes admonishing me.  There have been many times when I’ve questioned – is this really God or am I simply telling myself what I want to hear?  But then it will happen that something comes up, a question or a request, and I expect a certain answer or response but the Voice tells me something else, sometimes even opposite of what I was expecting.  I don’t take this for granted, don’t ask for it, and don’t expect it.  It’s not all the time, though it is often, and when I am overdue for Confession it is harder to hear.  I know that I need to be careful and I am sometimes concerned that I should be meeting regularly with someone to discuss my faith journey, but am not sure how to bring it up.  I feel funny talking about it because I don’t like to sound like I am boasting or making myself sound “holier than thou,” if you know what I mean.  Ok.  Probably rambling now.  Anyway, thanks for the video.  It wasn’t quite what I was hoping it was going to be when I clicked on it but it was still good. 

    Deo Juvante, Jen

  • God Bless you, Father John and Dan.  Now in this short and precise Video, you have pointed out to me where the Evil One often trips me with  these words from Jen S : 

    “There have been many times when I’ve questioned – is this really God or am I simply telling myself what I want to hear?”

    Thank You for this Video

  • Very helpful and encouraging! Thank you!

  • MaryofSharon

    Very helpful.  I appreciate how succinct Fr. Bartunek is in his explanations.  I would add that one can grow in recognizing the voice of God by seeing what happens when you respond to what you suspect may to be his promptings.  

    I was once inspired in adoration to e-mail one of John of the Cross’s poem’s to a young man I barely know who had just suffered a difficult break-up with his fiancee. A month later I heard back from him and he expressed great gratitude.  It turns out that John of the Cross not only spoke to his soul, but that this poem served as the inspiration for him to compose a chorale arrangement for his university chamber choir.  He had been unable to write something that he really liked until then.  It will be performed both locally and in his choir’s European tour. 

    The next time I sense a similar conviction in prayer, I will have a greater confidence that the Holy Spirit may really be asking me to do something, and I will be even more inclined to act. 

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