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Can special events be celebrated during Lent?

February 27, 2012 by  
Filed under Fr. Bartunek, Lent

Dear Father John, I have a question… My brother's graduation is this March during Lent and my family normally eats in a really nice restaurant for dinner after graduations. Is it okay if we aren't able to fulfill our Lenten fast or penance on days like celebrated during Lentthat?

What a beautiful question! It shows that you are sincerely concerned about living Lent well. Since Lent is a season of special penance, prayer, and almsgiving (by which we prepare ourselves for the liturgy of our Lord’s Sacred Passion), you are wondering if it is possible to celebrate an important event without tarnishing the spiritual atmosphere of the season. I have three thoughts for you.

Keep Fridays Well

First, remember that we all abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent. This is a form of penance and self-denial that the entire Church engages in. We also take on personal penances and spiritual disciplines, but this is one we do as a Catholic family, united with all our brothers and sisters throughout the world, and throughout the centuries. So, if your graduation dinner were to take place on a Friday, you would actually need an official dispensation from this Lenten requirement in order to serve and eat meat.

Time for Celebration

Second, remember also that the Church has not removed all of its liturgical solemnities from the calendar during Lent. St. Joseph’s Day and the Annunciation often fall within Lent. Likewise, Sundays are still liturgical solemnities all throughout Lent (which is why Lent, which starts on Ash Wednesday and ends on Easter Eve, still has only 40 days – if you include the Sundays, it would be 46). On solemnities, the Church is able to celebrate the triumphs of our Lord without spoiling the Lenten atmosphere.

Equilibrium over Legalism

Third, if someone’s birthday or anniversary were to fall during Lent, that would be no reason to forego a celebration. I think the case you present is similar to those. The graduation is a real achievement, and ought to be celebrated. To have a special celebration in honor of the achievement is a good and just thing to do. You can celebrate wholeheartedly on that day, without giving up or compromising your Lenten disciplines of prayer and penance, and you may even be able to combine them. For instance, you could give the graduate a Lenten-esque graduation present, like a donation in his name to a Catholic orphanage or educational institution. That would show appreciation both for your brother’s achievement, and also for the spirit of self-sacrifice that Lenten almsgiving is meant to express and foster.

I hope you can see that the mind of the Church in this matter always focuses on more than simply following specific external rules. It sets aside these weeks as a time to turn up the intensity of our quest for intimacy with God, our Creator, Savior, and Lover. If we followed all the “rules” perfectly, but didn’t engage actively in that quest, we would be missing the point. Lent is a season of spiritual renewal, of spring cleaning for the soul. The specific rules and practices that the Church requires and recommends are all meant to boost us in that primary, interior, and crucial spiritual adventure.

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About Fr. John Bartunek, LC

Fr. John Bartunek, LC, S.Th.D, received his BA in History from Stanford University in 1990. He comes from an evangelical Christian background and became a member of the Catholic Church in 1991. After college, he worked as a high school history teacher, drama director, and baseball coach. He then spent a year as a professional actor in Chicago before entering the religious Congregation of the Legionaries of Christ in 1993. He was ordained a Catholic priest in 2003 and earned his doctorate in moral theology in 2010. He provided spiritual support on the set of Mel Gibson’s "The Passion of the Christ" while researching the 2005 Catholic best seller, "Inside the Passion"--the only authorized, behind-the-scene explanation of the film. Fr. John has contributed news commentary regarding religious issues on NBC, CNN, Fox, and the BBC. He also served as the English-language press liaison for the Vatican’s 2005 Synod of Bishops on the Eucharist. His most widely known book is called: "The Better Part: A Christ-Centered Resource for Personal Prayer". His most recent books are "Spring Meditations", "Seeking First the Kingdom: 30 Meditations on How to Love God with All Your Heart, Soul, Mind and Strength", and "Answers: Catholic Advice for Your Spiritual Questions". Fr. John currently splits his time between Michigan (where he continues his writing apostolate and serves as a confessor and spiritual director at the Queen of the Family Retreat Center) and Rome, where he teaches theology at Regina Apostolorum. His online, do-it-yourself retreats are available at, and he answers questions about the spiritual life at

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  • LawrenceOP

    As a regular (indeed, daily) reader of this blog, I was delighted to see one of my photos being used here! 🙂

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      • Alexandra Campbell

        Hi Dan,
        How does one submit photos. I have some fantastic photos of the Carmelite Retreat House in Napa that I would like to give you in case you found a use for them.

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    • Becky Ward

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  • Tchr4him

    In our family we have 3 birthdays in or near lent. Usually we move the celebration to the nearest Sunday. The benefit to this is that usually the older kids are home to celebrate with us as well and often (for the anxious younger crowd) birthday celebrations are actually earlier than the birthday.

  • Thank you for this article!

  • Mizue Inokuchui

    Thank you very much. Yes, I’m OK.

  • alexis

    hi! glad that i came across this site. my problem is somewhat similar with this article. am the Christian Living coordinator in our school and in-charge in preparing liturgical celebrations. what about guidelines in preparing the liturgical reading for the baccalaureate mass of this graduating batch? i prepared the liturgical and used the liturgy proper for the season. the graduation rites and baccalaureate mass falls on the fifth week of lent march 29 thursday. my school director commented that the readings and prayers were not appropriate for the celebration.. i felt dishearten. can you please enlighten me on this? thanks 🙂 

  • Clare

    In our rural Catholic Church in the deep South one of our Deacons actually started “Sunday School”. We have five classes between one of the Masses. Each class studies something on our Catholic Faith :
    like a study on the Letters, Catholic Apologetics, Church History, Church Fathers, you get the idea. Our next study will be on Pope Benedict’s book ‘Jesus of Nazareth’.this week we studied about “Lent”-history and ALL!  I’ll just let ya’ll (Southern expression) “google” :When does Lent End!Blessings!

  • Rachel W.

    I also have two Lenten birthdays – made even a bit more complicated as it is two children born on the same day – thought not twins!  Happily, this year it falls on a Sunday so we’re ‘off the hook’ but we celebrate them when they come and they know when it falls on a Friday it is cheese pizza!!!

  • Leboeufeugene

    Check your request with your pastor. He can point out the readings for your graduation Mass; also, it may be possible that a Mass be celebrated outside the regular Sunday schedule of Masses. Do consult with your pastor. God bless!

  • Rollinskjohn

    I am glad that I came across this post,as I was looking for an answer to this question I had in mind. Thank you Father John

  • Fchrysostom

    We are moving in lent. Can we have a house warming celebration in lent?

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