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Self-knowledge and the spiritual life – Part I of III

July 26, 2010 by  
Filed under Dan Burke, Self Knowledge

How are the brake lights on your car? Are they working properly? I have an experiment for you. Go out to your car all by yourself and try to verify that they are working. Back already? How did it go? Did you cheat and do the exercise in your head? That's ok, let's just go with it. The bottom line is this; in the normal course of life, you would never know that one of your brake lights was broken unless someone else revealed it to you.

The same is often true in the spiritual life. Because of the effect of concupiscence (our inclination to sin) we are prone to self-deception and to fall prey to the lies of the world and the enemy of our souls. These deceptions are often subtle and have worked their way into our persons in such a way as to blind us to them. Our natural adaptation to ways of living, thinking, and acting become second nature and thus they disappear from our sight because they are familiar to us. These hidden faults might come from a series of choices we have made in life or they can come from patterns of behavior common to our families of origin. They can also come from the habitual clinging to imperfections or venial sins that provide some temporal benefit to us. Regardless of their source they are moral defects or patterns of sin and spiritually destructive behaviors that we are often unable to see without the help of others. They are the broken brake lights that significantly increase the probability of a serious spiritual crash.

How can we be sure we are driving through life with all our lights functioning properly? The answer lies in a life-long commitment to spiritual practices that foster self-awareness. St. Teresa of Avila and St. Catherine of Siena, along with many other spiritual doctors of the Church, strongly emphasize the necessity of a God-centered self-awareness in order to have a vibrant and healthy relationship with God and others. St. Teresa says this about self-knowledge and spiritual development (in the second chapter of the First Dwelling Places of Interior Castles):

Knowing ourselves is something so important that I wouldn't want any relaxation ever in this regard, however high you may have climbed to the heavens… So I repeat that it is good, indeed very good, to try to enter first into the room where self-knowledge is dealt with rather than to fly off to other rooms… Rather, let's strive to make more progress in our self-knowledge. In my opinion we shall never completely know ourselves if we don't strive to know God. By gazing at His grandeur, we get in touch with our own lowliness; by looking at His purity, we shall see our own filth; by pondering His humility, we shall see how far we are from being humble.

Regardless of the level of delusion we suffer, the challenge is that if these patterns of deception find a home deep within our makeup, it is very difficult to diagnose and then effectively deal with them. Failure to deal with them can result in serious spiritual calamity. The good news is that the beginning of freedom comes with the beginning of self knowledge. The beginning of self knowledge comes through the exploration of God's love and provision for us. In our next post, we will explore a few ways we can uncover these challenges hiding in the dark corners of our souls that hinder the great love and peace that God has prepared for us in Christ.

Seek Him – Find Him – Follow Him


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About Dan Burke

Dan is the President of the Avila Foundation, the parent organization of, the Avila Institute for Spiritual Formation, Divine Intimacy Radio and Divine Intimacy Radio - Resources Edition, Into the Deep Parish Programs, the Apostoli Viae (Apostles of the Way) Community, and the FireLight Student Leadership Formation Program, author of the award-winning book, Navigating the Interior Life - Spiritual Direction and the Journey to God, Finding God Through Meditation-St. Peter of Alcantara, 30 Days with Teresa of Avila, Into the Deep, Living the Mystery of Merciful Love: 30 Days with Thérèse of Lisieux, and his newest book The Contemplative Rosary with St. John Paul II and St. Teresa of Avila. Beyond his "contagious" love for Jesus and His Church, he is a grateful husband and father of four, the Executive Director of and writer for EWTN's National Catholic Register, a regular co-host on Register Radio, a writer and speaker who provides online spiritual formation and travels to share his conversion story and the great riches that the Church provides us through authentic Catholic spirituality. Dan has been featured on EWTN's Journey Home program and numerous radio programs.

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  • Ampm Molloy

    That’s really good advice…
    How then do we start to tackle the faults and weaknesses we come across?

  • Guest

    Wow! Now, Dan, I can’t wait for your next post on this subject. This is where, I feel, we always fail. Fear to delve into our inner selves only to discover that we are more imperfect than we care to admit. In this way, we cling to the comfort zone – self-delusion. I believe this is one area where we need a generous dose of God’s Grace and total trust in Christ’s Mercy to honestly peer into our real selves.

  • I conduct a periodic reverse evaluation among people who work for me. It reveals things that are sometimes painful to admit and other things that I was blithely unaware of. It would be great to have the outside “eyes” for the same kind of thing for spiritual feedback. I am looking forward to your next post.

  • Cynthia

    Would you say that this necessity for self-knowledge and our natural tendency for self-deception is one of the primary reasons spiritual direction is so important in our spirtual journey? Since I still do not have a spiritual director, I’m hoping that your next post is very englightening!
    Thanks very much for this post, Dan.

    • Dear Cynthia – you are exactly on target. Don’t fret as you are searching. This is also part of His glorious work in us…

      • Cynthia

        Dear Dan, I received encouragement just this morning in the reading from the Divine Office (Tobit 4: 15-19). It reads, in part, “Seek counsel from every wise man. At all times bless the Lord God, and ask him to make all your paths straight and to grant success to all your endeavors and plans.” Thank you, Dan, for being one of the wise men placed along my path while I am waiting for God to provide a spiritual director. Your encouragement and God’s Word have spurred me on to make one more phone call today! To God be the Glory…

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